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Are you afraid of being alone? Many people are. The thought that, at some point in time most of us will spend a period of time alone, is something that scares many people a great deal.

There are many reasons why someone will spend time alone. Perhaps a spouse dies. Perhaps a child moves away, goes to college. A relationship breaks up, and one has no partner. These are all hard to live through, but we can come through all of these experiences as stronger people. The path to getting through them is to be satisfied alone. If you are ok being alone, you won’t fear it any longer.

This is hard to accept for many people. We need to be able to enjoy our activities for the activity itself. Too often we depend on other people for our enjoyment. We feel like if we can’t do something with another person, share the experience, we are disappointed. It is like the telling of a story.

If we have a story to tell but no audience, then there is no value to the story. This way of thinking is not healthy. We set ourselves up to depend on others to an unhealthy degree when we think this way, because we can’t enjoy anything unless there is someone there with us.

Sharing experiences and stories is positive but should not be required. If you enjoy doing something for yourself, this is the key to independence. This will allow you to fully experience the activity, and feel fully about what you are doing.

If you can do this, nobody can take your joy away from you. You will have memories that are wonderful for all of your life even if you circumstances become difficult. You can only be really independent if you can enjoy life without having a companion for it. You’ll be far happier in the long run.

Basically, we need to learn to be comfortable with ourselves. This can be hard, and can seem morbid or depressing. It’s not a negative, however. If we can enjoy things ourselves, this doesn’t mean we can’t also share them.

In fact, you will have a better time sharing experiences with others if you can learn to enjoy experiences on your own first.

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